It's that day of that week of that month again. Mother's day~~ (applause) In conjunction of this special event, I would like to voice out my thoughts on motherhood. just read on, you'll understand.

Mothers are sensitive creatures- I'm not referring to women in general, because Mothers are like a specific group within women which I consider different. It's like, when a woman starts changing their status from a 'Married woman' to a 'Mother', she's more than just a woman, she just brought life to the world, and this group of people tend to feel, act, and react the same. Motherly instincts, ring a bell?

I guess it's just so common to hear "Aku takleh ar, mak aku marah nanti" "Kalau mak aku tau, bebel smpi Subuh." Even if you ask a friend to hang out, if they say "Mak aku tak kasi" , then the meeting's automatically off. It's just such big of a deal, the role and impact of a mother, that I had to clear my mind, be calm, and it just came to me, "Hey, mak aku remaja gak dulu" She went through the same phase as I am, struggling through...similar problems, and probably made stupid(er) mistakes like I did. But why does it feels as if she never went through all that? Like, I can't imagine my mother skipping school, hanging out at some mamak stall, drinking up a fuzzy grape soda staying alert for teachers on patrol (not that I did any of those), but yeah, I just can't imagine my mother doing anything breaking the rules. Since she always tell me to abide them, I just can't imagine her being scold by my grandmother about those things.

I guess that's my problem with my mom. Everyone has problems with their mother in different aspects. And for me, my mother never talks about her mistakes/flaws. In other words, she always talk about her perfection, you know, like "I never did that when I was your age!" "When Nenek scold me once, I never repeated that mistake again." "I never this...I never that" which is actually a good thing, if you try to rationalize. She wants her children to follow her footsteps, see her as a role model, and do the things that she did, and by telling only the good stuff, there is a possibility that I could be perfect. But the thing is, I don't believe in perfection, so that's a major problem.

Mothers are sensitive. I am a sensitive person, but my mother claims that I'm emotionless. So, if you know me, and you know how sensitive I am, so you can imagine how sensitive mothers are. I'm not saying that in a bad way. Mothers have the right to be sensitive. Isn't that's the whole reason of that birth surgery that every freaking motivational camp shows. I came up with a few reasons why they just HAVE to show THAT video.

• Your mother endured THIS much pain JUST to have you
• You do not have the rights to hurt this woman, and this woman has all the rights to be mad/scold/beat/nag at you
• Whenever you hurt her feelings, they'll think about the pain of giving birth, and the worth of going through it all.
• Just because you don't remember going through a very tiny hole that hurts the owner so much it feels like dying, doesn't mean you can ignore the fact that you did.

Bottom line is, she can make you feel like shit, and you don't even have the rights to fight back. I tell this to my brother and sister all the time, the way you treat people and how you react to their doings are different than how you should treat and react to your mother. So, when my mother says to me that I treat her like I treat my friends, I was a bit offended, because I don't. Really, I don't. When I say I'm trying to change, I really mean it. So Ummi, sorry if you feel that way, but I'm trying to change for the better, and that's the code for 'forget all those mistakes ever happened'

But that's the thing about mothers, they have a keen memory.  They'll remember every single mistake that you did. Every single time you made her cry, and giving birth to you felt like yesterday. So they're like, emotionally imbalance, once you upset her, all these memories come rushing over, and she starts remembering things that aren't even relevant to the current situation. It sounds irrelevant, it sounds quite ridiculous, but there's nothing strange about that. That's just how mothers are.

I'm blessed. Rea~~ly blessed for having really cool parents. They never force me to do things that I don't want. They talk to me if I did anything wrong. They give great advice, and they have taught me a lot in life, and I've gotta give more kudos for my mom, because she does those things more than my dad. And sometimes, when I hear friends/colleagues/in facebook people talk about how bad their mothers are, it kind of hurts. So, I made this post dedicated for myself, to reflect on my relationship with my mother, and secondly, to tell all YOU guys who may or may not have treated your mothers in a way that upsets her (even when you find that situation supposedly un-upsetting at all), I've got something to tell you: NOT COOL! In fact, it's lame. And just like how Amani told Mr. Miserable in Muallaf, "You shouldn't talk to your mother like that!"

They might be annoying sometimes, gets on your nerves, but at the end of the day, when you're alone and scared in the dark of the night, who's the one person on your mind? Who's the one person you call out even though she can't hear?



I don't know about you guys, but I'm getting teary eyed, so I'm gonna finish this off with a gif that would express my feeling towards my mom. *wipe tears*

Labels: besides heroes always die, cincang darah pon boleh

It's that day of that week of that month again. Mother's day~~ (applause) In conjunction of this special event, I would like to voice out my thoughts on motherhood. just read on, you'll understand.

Mothers are sensitive creatures- I'm not referring to women in general, because Mothers are like a specific group within women which I consider different. It's like, when a woman starts changing their status from a 'Married woman' to a 'Mother', she's more than just a woman, she just brought life to the world, and this group of people tend to feel, act, and react the same. Motherly instincts, ring a bell?

I guess it's just so common to hear "Aku takleh ar, mak aku marah nanti" "Kalau mak aku tau, bebel smpi Subuh." Even if you ask a friend to hang out, if they say "Mak aku tak kasi" , then the meeting's automatically off. It's just such big of a deal, the role and impact of a mother, that I had to clear my mind, be calm, and it just came to me, "Hey, mak aku remaja gak dulu" She went through the same phase as I am, struggling through...similar problems, and probably made stupid(er) mistakes like I did. But why does it feels as if she never went through all that? Like, I can't imagine my mother skipping school, hanging out at some mamak stall, drinking up a fuzzy grape soda staying alert for teachers on patrol (not that I did any of those), but yeah, I just can't imagine my mother doing anything breaking the rules. Since she always tell me to abide them, I just can't imagine her being scold by my grandmother about those things.

I guess that's my problem with my mom. Everyone has problems with their mother in different aspects. And for me, my mother never talks about her mistakes/flaws. In other words, she always talk about her perfection, you know, like "I never did that when I was your age!" "When Nenek scold me once, I never repeated that mistake again." "I never this...I never that" which is actually a good thing, if you try to rationalize. She wants her children to follow her footsteps, see her as a role model, and do the things that she did, and by telling only the good stuff, there is a possibility that I could be perfect. But the thing is, I don't believe in perfection, so that's a major problem.

Mothers are sensitive. I am a sensitive person, but my mother claims that I'm emotionless. So, if you know me, and you know how sensitive I am, so you can imagine how sensitive mothers are. I'm not saying that in a bad way. Mothers have the right to be sensitive. Isn't that's the whole reason of that birth surgery that every freaking motivational camp shows. I came up with a few reasons why they just HAVE to show THAT video.

• Your mother endured THIS much pain JUST to have you
• You do not have the rights to hurt this woman, and this woman has all the rights to be mad/scold/beat/nag at you
• Whenever you hurt her feelings, they'll think about the pain of giving birth, and the worth of going through it all.
• Just because you don't remember going through a very tiny hole that hurts the owner so much it feels like dying, doesn't mean you can ignore the fact that you did.

Bottom line is, she can make you feel like shit, and you don't even have the rights to fight back. I tell this to my brother and sister all the time, the way you treat people and how you react to their doings are different than how you should treat and react to your mother. So, when my mother says to me that I treat her like I treat my friends, I was a bit offended, because I don't. Really, I don't. When I say I'm trying to change, I really mean it. So Ummi, sorry if you feel that way, but I'm trying to change for the better, and that's the code for 'forget all those mistakes ever happened'

But that's the thing about mothers, they have a keen memory.  They'll remember every single mistake that you did. Every single time you made her cry, and giving birth to you felt like yesterday. So they're like, emotionally imbalance, once you upset her, all these memories come rushing over, and she starts remembering things that aren't even relevant to the current situation. It sounds irrelevant, it sounds quite ridiculous, but there's nothing strange about that. That's just how mothers are.

I'm blessed. Rea~~ly blessed for having really cool parents. They never force me to do things that I don't want. They talk to me if I did anything wrong. They give great advice, and they have taught me a lot in life, and I've gotta give more kudos for my mom, because she does those things more than my dad. And sometimes, when I hear friends/colleagues/in facebook people talk about how bad their mothers are, it kind of hurts. So, I made this post dedicated for myself, to reflect on my relationship with my mother, and secondly, to tell all YOU guys who may or may not have treated your mothers in a way that upsets her (even when you find that situation supposedly un-upsetting at all), I've got something to tell you: NOT COOL! In fact, it's lame. And just like how Amani told Mr. Miserable in Muallaf, "You shouldn't talk to your mother like that!"

They might be annoying sometimes, gets on your nerves, but at the end of the day, when you're alone and scared in the dark of the night, who's the one person on your mind? Who's the one person you call out even though she can't hear?



I don't know about you guys, but I'm getting teary eyed, so I'm gonna finish this off with a gif that would express my feeling towards my mom. *wipe tears*

Labels: besides heroes always die, cincang darah pon boleh

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